A lot of times I find that those I read are living in the past. Not last week- we're talking sometimes 20+ years yahll. It's intriguing how each of us carry it with us into our present and future. We carry pain, a lost love, our nightmares and fears, our misfortunes, and mistakes. Hear me when I say this:
Everything, absolutely everything, happens for a reason and in its' own time. If you lose a job, a home, a car, it's to make room for something better. If you lose someone you thought was your soulmate, a love meant for you and you alone, and you've tried everything in your power to get them back and still you fail- move forward with your life being happy you know what that love feels like. Most people don't ever get to experience it in their whole life time. Move forward because you still have a life to enjoy before it ends, make it a beautiful life and carry your memories with you smiling. Think about those that lose their soulmates to death and find love again! It happens every day.
Don't accept the feelings that come with loss as your forever. We are meant to overcome change and to grow from it. I'm seeing a lot of relationships/marriages growing apart because someone in the relationship 'changed' and 'they are not the same as when we met' yes, that happens! The goal is to grow together, not apart. You get older, wiser, priorities change, you're not going to party every night and drink when you have children, etc. It's time to let that past go and learn to love who you are with now. Get to know that person, dream with that person, set new goals with them, and be sure to still do the things you enjoy sometimes too. No it won't be easy! Nothing in life worth having is.
Recognize that you can't live your life in the past. You control your future and choose which path you take moving forward. Sure in hindsight there's probably a lot of things we could have done differently, but the way to look at it is: "That ain't how sh*t shook out." Forgive yourself for any potential wrong doings, apologize where necessary, and move forward being a better person and living life with no regrets. There's only ONE gift of life. 😉🙏🏽❤️