You don't have to live long as an adult before you encounter what it feels like to genuinely cause someone hurt and be the one to blame. For me, as an empath, I know when that kind of damage takes place and the regret stays with me long after the pain is gone. After apologies, after forgiveness- the blame lingers. It took me a long time to recognize this difference in me.
The ability of an empath isn't something that is taught or explained to you as a child... You are taught not to hurt. You're taught the power of your actions. Remorse. To say, "I'm sorry." You don't know different. You don't walk in your child's shoes, or body for that matter as a parent to teach them different. This is simply known as 'paranormal' when you research it. In general most people, that pay attention, can pick up on someone's facial queues or tone to decifer whether they're upset or hurt. Me? sure, I can do that too- but I also feel what they feel physically and then I'm left to deal with my emotions & theirs. It can be overwhelming. I learned that it's easy to point blame but not exactly to accept responsibility for your own doing. It's important tho. Doing so- genuinely accepting responsibility for hurting someone, is how you grow. It can also be a way to build strong relationships. It can be the difference in saving a relationship or losing it forever. So don't wait too long to be honest with yourself.
Here's the thing for those that have been hurt- it only hurts because you've given someone the power to hurt you. You may not have had control over what hurt you, but you have control over your response. I'm not saying not to feel it, I'm saying to accept it as your truth at the moment and then let it go. Hurt is one of the most unproductive feelings there is. Hurt's best friend is Bitterness and only suit to destroy you. Let go of Hurt before Bitterness comes to visit. It's that long lost family member that stays beyond the invite & is a pain to get rid of. Trust me. Feel what you need to and know it's temporary- move on in a more positive way. It'll improve your quality of life.