We do it all the time. Invest time & energy into people, jobs, activities, & stuff that really don’t add value to our life. With everyone we interact with we give away a piece of ourselves & collect pieces from others. Our energy gets left on the books we read, the things we make, places we go, the people we upset or touch kindly, etc.
With family it’s a more delicate topic. We certainly can not choose our blood, but we can decide as we get older who we wish to make memories with & with whom we need to spend less time with.
I didn’t realize how reactive I was to others’ emotions & energies before. Everything just clicked. Everything made sense. There were some people I was naturally gravated to, they were always positive people & bubbly. With big smiles & good hearts. As I got older I realized how unbearable it was to be around the opposite. I feel it. Negativity & hate takes up sooo much energy, it changes you, it exhausts you. But at the same time the drama is like a bad drug. You hate to do it, you know it’s bad for you- but you can’t stop involving yourself in it because it’s all around us.
Empaths attract it all. We want to help those that are negative and drown in those that are positive. They both drain us. As humans, in general, we are attracted to negativity. It’s a mechanism we have to protect ourselves. Why do you think bad news travels fast? Why you feel good when you’re holding juicy gossip harmful to others? Why does it excite you? Why do you think the news focus on all bad stuff? Do your research, its not because the world is more dangerous than it was back when... It’s because we, as humans, are attuned to self preservation and we want to know the bad, the evil, the danger. The news stations gets paid for those who watch. All of this changes us forevermore- but for them it’s no matter- it’s just business & there’s science behind the pull to keep watching the train wreck.
My point: Pick up the pieces you’ve left behind that were wasted, where you can. You can do it by forgiving those that have wronged you. Asking forgiveness of those you’ve hurt. Begin to stop wasting your precious time on negativity and make every piece you give away & receive count.