 It's easy to be there for a friend, family member or a stranger in need. Does the light you share with others find its' way back to you? Or does your light sustain you?
I bring this up because I'm pretty sure my Doc will yell at me tomorrow during my check up! Lol! 😂 My light is happy to help others and I get joy from it, but it doesn't always shine brightly back to me by my loved ones or even for myself. Sometimes friends & family won't look after you as much as you look after them, & that's ok. You are needed. The Problem: Likely the mom in me that takes care of others before myself. I promise I understand the importance of caring for yourself and watching after your health, but I also empathize with those that sometimes take the back seat. It's exhausting looking after others & being a mom is one of the toughest jobs. I have learned not to beat myself up about it though. You can fret about weight, bad habits, tasks undone, & health all day - but it won't do any good. The power to manage all of those stresses lies within you. At the end of the day it's a choice to improve your quality of life and when you're ready you must have faith that you will. Imagine how many you'll help when you're 100% looking after & loving yourself! 😉🙏🏽❤️ -La Jibarita www.lajibaritatarotreadings.com
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 We encounter it everyday- evil people doing evil things. Even on social media- we have folks that enjoy wreaking havoc with their careless use of words, taunts, and hate. No matter if they simply do it for likes or attention, it's important that you don't spend your energy on it. It simply encourages the behavior. Some thrive in drama.
We often encounter evil in our own families. That doesn't have to be trickier to manage. You can acknowledge someone as blood but also distance yourself to protect your energy. Not everyone will wish you well and have your corner. Recognize that family and friends are those that whole-heartedly support & love you unconditionally regardless of blood relation. You can not force someone to take a role in your life just because it's expected of them. You can't control others you can only control your reaction to them. Having expectations for someone in your life who doesn't value you is simply opening you up for disappointment. It's best to wish them well, pray for them, and move on having the best life you can. Recognizing these people in your life as quickly as possible will save you a lot of heart ache. I've said it before and here it goes again- not everyone in your life is meant to stay throughout your journey. 😉🙏🏽❤️ -La Jibarita www.lajibaritatarotreadings.com  We can't judge a single person. At some point we've all lied and cheated... Be it as innocent as a white lie or cheating at a card game- It's the deceit I feel as an empath, I feel the guilt and at times the confusion of the act itself. With this gift I have I don't care what your past is, I'm more excited about your future. If I can help guide you to your joy & life's purpose I sustain my joy and continue to fulfill my purpose.
I'm lied to all the time, lol... Every day! It doesn't upset me when I feel the intentions are innocent or curious about my ability. I'll play along and push the deceit aside to truly help someone. What I don't support nor condone is someone trying to deceive me to take advantage when I'm trying to help. That's where I just say, "Thank you, but no thank you." Lol... Keep this in mind every day- we're all human. No one is perfect. You just need to consider someone's heart and intentions on whether you'll accept it in your life & journey. If their energy is negative that energy will soon impact your own. Your gut will guide you. Listen to it. 😉🙏🏽❤️ -La Jibarita www.lajibaritatarotreadings.com  I'm asked about dreams all the time. I'm probably the wrong person to ask! Lol... Just being honest. I'm not a Psychologist or anything, definitely can't be defined as 'normal'. I can't speak to anyone elses' dreams but I can give you my thoughts on my own. Mine are weird and sweet, sometimes crazy, really. My mind is always going a mile a minute during the day. It's no shock that it would do the same in my sleep. My dreams tell me when to check on old friends, when to maybe give a new friendship a chance-when my friends or family needs me. When I'm stressed & practically a hot mess or lost- I'm visited by those in my past who have passed on to remind me life is short. Life is meant to be enjoyed. Sometimes my dreams are just funny gibberish or ideas for my next book that I won't ever publish, lol! You know those dreams you wake up laughing at? It's a friendly way of getting me to take a breather, that I'm doing too much. Other times your dreams are a direct reflection to what's going on in your life at the moment. If they are scary or anxious dreams- try and not watch any creepy movies before bed, try prayer or peaceful meditation before surrendering to sleep, think of positive things before sleeping, and definitely avoid scrolling through your cell phone late at night. The internet is worse than some horror flicks. Just a few recommendations. There's often a simple anwer to changes in your sleeping patterns or dreams. Don't be afraid of your dreams- it's the equivalent of being afraid of yourself! They say everyone represented in your dreams are people you've seen before at some point that your mind subconsciously remembers. Maybe someone you passed on the street at some point in your life. The mind is amazingly complex. If you're an intuitive, like me, you'll realize no dream is a coincidence. They all mean something if you take the time to think on them. However, just remember, living your life is about enjoying it and being happy in the present. The point of life is to help others and living your best life. Stressing about your dreams when they don't make sense to you isn't productive. Trust that if you're meant to know something, you eventually will in your own time. 😉🙏🏽❤️ -La Jibarita www.lajibaritatarotreadings.com  You don't have to live long as an adult before you encounter what it feels like to genuinely cause someone hurt and be the one to blame. For me, as an empath, I know when that kind of damage takes place and the regret stays with me long after the pain is gone. After apologies, after forgiveness- the blame lingers. It took me a long time to recognize this difference in me.
The ability of an empath isn't something that is taught or explained to you as a child... You are taught not to hurt. You're taught the power of your actions. Remorse. To say, "I'm sorry." You don't know different. You don't walk in your child's shoes, or body for that matter as a parent to teach them different. This is simply known as 'paranormal' when you research it. In general most people, that pay attention, can pick up on someone's facial queues or tone to decifer whether they're upset or hurt. Me? sure, I can do that too- but I also feel what they feel physically and then I'm left to deal with my emotions & theirs. It can be overwhelming. I learned that it's easy to point blame but not exactly to accept responsibility for your own doing. It's important tho. Doing so- genuinely accepting responsibility for hurting someone, is how you grow. It can also be a way to build strong relationships. It can be the difference in saving a relationship or losing it forever. So don't wait too long to be honest with yourself. Here's the thing for those that have been hurt- it only hurts because you've given someone the power to hurt you. You may not have had control over what hurt you, but you have control over your response. I'm not saying not to feel it, I'm saying to accept it as your truth at the moment and then let it go. Hurt is one of the most unproductive feelings there is. Hurt's best friend is Bitterness and only suit to destroy you. Let go of Hurt before Bitterness comes to visit. It's that long lost family member that stays beyond the invite & is a pain to get rid of. Trust me. Feel what you need to and know it's temporary- move on in a more positive way. It'll improve your quality of life. 😉🙏🏽❤️ -La Jibarita www.lajibaritatarotreadings.com  There's a lot of Pros to having my gift and I'm grateful I can help others- but it comes at the cost of my sleep. I've noticed a significant change. I had a love affair for years with my ability to lay down and conk out for a long restful sleep all night, albeit with some snoring, lol. But it was RESTFUL! I'm talkin' 8-12 hrs of uninterrupted bliss with some cool dreams I was always aware were dreams during my sleep. 😍 Now? I'm lucky if I get 3-4 hours. 😑 I stay up until I've exhausted myself and finally catch Zzzs around midnight. I have crazy dreams and wake up in the middle to then pick it back up where it left off after I'm back to sleep, which has never happened before. Then like clock work I'm up at 3/3:30am. Alert and awake. When I try and go back to sleep it takes me hours, then when I do- I wake up feeling like death.
So I turned to my buddy- 'Good Ole' Google'... I ended up reading a few articles. One was an actual psychology investigation that said that waking at 3 am your body is going through a 'spiritual awakening' and you tune into your emotions...but I also read that it's the witches'/devil's hour... There went my research! Lol. I've already awakened spiritually with my love for God and I know I'm not a witch or a devil! I've simply accepted that there's a balance to everything- there's a bit of bad with every good and visa versa. I'll keep working on trying different things like tea and eating better, etc. in efforts to help aid me to sleep naturally. One day I hope to have this all figured out: I'll do emotional readings without getting headaches after; I will finally get my sleep back; I won't freak out my friends & family with my premonitions that come true- it'll just be "Lisette's looking out for me again."; I won't be uneasy with the ghosts I feel when they visit; I'll control meditation better so the visions don't freak me out... One day, in my own time! 😉🙏🏽❤️ -La Jibarita www.lajibaritatarotreadings.com  We all have our own different relationship with God. Me? It's always been an interesting one since I found Him at 17. I spent most of my life ignoring that little voice in my gut that tried to guide me. I was young and I had listened to an odd request that led me to fearing the power of it. It was a lightbulb moment for me, and a life changing one for someone else. I knew exactly then that I had received this gift, but I didn't know what to do with it and I doubted myself. It was a lot of responsibility I wasn't ready for, but He always stayed with me- despite my stubbornness. Almost 20 somethin' years later I found out how important that voice has been to me throughout my journey. Despite my fear I always turned to Him and He was always there. I've learned that when your intuition speaks to you there's only two places that it comes from- your Spirit or your God. Call me crazy, but it's true. When that voice is incessant and it calls you to help others it's almost always God. He'll use that same voice to look after you when you're in danger or need help. We all have a purpose & this voice will lead you to it. Don't be stubborn or fear the power of it like I did. It's allowed me to help so many people, inspire them, give them joy & hope, and most importantly remind them that God is ever present in watching over them. You can make a difference with that voice. 😉🙏🏽❤️ -La Jibarita www.lajibaritatarotreadings.com  Ain't this some mess?! Just when we think Spring is just around the corner- BOOM! Two more feet of snow coming. They've already cancelled school in our area of New York without a snowflake showing its' face! Lol! I swear, I'm over winter already. I just started my seeds indoors for my herbs and flowers! (This is what happens when I'm going bonkers- my country twang pops out for a visit from my childhood in the South! Lol.) Yup, I checked with the cards- there's no answer for being home with the kids on a snow day!😂 Sorry folks! We just have to do what parents often do- wing it, pray for the best & hope the electricity doesn't go out! I know there are folks out there that are like- "I don't mind when my electricity goes out, it's quality time with my beautiful children"... 😏 Sure. Just wait until you have those hormones kick in and the sweet child you have 'transforms' into this unrecognizeable coo-koo for Cocoa Puffs kid and there's not enough wine! Then you'll see. 😉 Sorry parents- no kid is immune. I hope we all survive teen years & snow days! Lol. I'm praying for everyone! Stay warm! ☺️🙏🏽❤️ -La Jibarita www.lajibaritatarotreadings.com  My first lover was music. Gifted with my father's love for music and his ear to play before I could read notes, I fell hard. Anything soulful would stay with me, resound and play in my head all day until I learned every note, every lyric. Loved R&B, soft rock, blues, classic, pop and country- you name it. Garth Brooks went with us on every family road trip. Babyface & Brian McKnight comforted me through my young heartbreaks that tore me apart- you know the ones that have you wondering how on earth you were going to go on? Juan Luis Guerra & Andrea Bocelli would lay with me at night to console me and remind me that true love was not only possible, but still existed in a beautiful way. Even in the gym Raskal Flatts & Jamie Foxx would push me to go on when every muscle ached. When I couldn't get up in the mornings Sugarland reminded me I couldn't afford to miss work- but we'd giggle on what it could be like to tell our boss to kiss it! Lol.
There's not a big moment in my life that doesn't have a song attached to it. The first song I taught myself on the piano was after I realized my marriage was over. Every relationship & friendship I have has a soundtrack. Imagine if someone could gather all of those together? You'd play my whole life out- one heartbreak, vacation, celebration, milestone, & success at a time. Music will heal you. Excite you. Give you hope. Bring you joy. Get you a speeding ticket! Cry with you when you do. It'll change your whole life if you let it. 😉🙏🏽❤️ - La Jibarita www.lajibaritatarotreadings.com |